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The Tech Parenting Rulebook

100 Simple Tips to Raise Digitally Healthy Kids. A no-guilt, research-backed playbook for busy parents, from a marketing exec turned digital wellness advocate.

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Book Details


AUTHOR

Aniko Hill

FOREWORD

Dr. Tovah P. Klein

PUBLISHER

AH Works

PAPERBACK (ISBN 979-8-9973106-0-8)

$18.99

EBOOK (ISBN 979-8-9973106-1-5)

$9.99


About the book

Screen time battles. Anxious kids. Phones at the dinner table. These aren't parenting failures, they're the predictable result of products built by behavioral psychologists to be impossible to put down.

The Tech Parenting Rulebook is less a book to read than an almanac to keep on the kitchen counter: 100 specific, research-backed tips for the phones, apps, and algorithms already living in your house, organized by age from toddlers to teens, so you can find what applies to your family right now.

No guilt. No overwhelm. Pick three. Pick ten. But start with one right now.

Why this book is different

  • Built for busy parents. 100 short, standalone tips, each readable in under three minutes. Start anywhere.

  • Nonjudgmental. No mom guilt, no dad guilt. Take what helps and leave what doesn't.

  • Grounded in science. Every rule is rooted in evolutionary biology, child development, and behavioral psychology, with stories, science, and studies behind it.

  • Written by an insider. 20+ years building brand and social campaigns inside the attention economy.

  • Made to be used. If The Anxious Generation was the why, this is the how.

  • “Hill meets the smartphone moment head-on with 100 tips ‘to give your family a fighting chance against some of the most sophisticated technology ever built.’ Her relatable scenarios and immediately actionable advice are grounded in the latest research, build a parent’s confidence, and yield an unmistakable sense of relief that we can reassert control over the devices designed to steer and profit from our every move. Like a protective shield, this book is truly a must-have for parents everywhere.”

    —Julie Lythcott-Haims, New York Times Bestselling Author of How to Raise an Adult 

  • “This is the book I would have dog-eared back when I was navigating parenting in the digital era without a roadmap. I’ve spent a career on the very platforms Aniko so honestly writes about: She doesn’t shame, she doesn’t panic, and she doesn’t ask you to burn your phone. She just hands you 100 small, doable ways to take back a little presence — for your marriage, your kids, and your sanity! Start with any one of them and watch your life transform.” 

    —Carley Knobloch, Tech Lifestyle Expert, Today Show & HGTV

  • “As both a pediatrician and a mom, I know firsthand how challenging it can be to raise children in a world filled with screens and smartphones. I appreciate that Aniko doesn’t ask parents to strive for perfection or make them feel guilty. Instead, she offers realistic, evidence-informed strategies that families can actually use. Her practical approach helps parents foster healthier relationships with technology while keeping what matters most at the forefront: connection, sleep, play, and mental health. This is an important, timely resource for every modern parent.”

    —Jessica Hochman, MD, Pediatrician and Host of Your Child is Normal Podcast

  • “Aniko’s gift is communicating with parents in a way that they can relate to about how technology affects their children and how to protect kids’ health and foster their success. Her leadership in this space is unparalleled and The Tech Parenting Rulebook is the book families need today!”

    —Richard Freed, Ph.D, Psychologist and Author of Better Than Real Life

  • “Aniko Hill tackles a fraught topic with calm rationality, reassuring parents that their kids’ screen time habits can indeed be improved — and there is light at the end of the tunnel!”

    —Katherine Martinko, Author of Childhood Unplugged and Hold the Phone

  • “I am just so thankful this book exists. Finally a book of simple, easy guidelines to get screen & phone time under control for both our kids and ourselves. Aniko did the research so we don’t have to. The Tech Parenting Rulebook distills all of Aniko’s knowledge into steps that don’t feel daunting or overwhelming — instead it’s filled with small changes I can use today, with the research to tell me why they work.”

    —Bethany Barton, Award-Winning Author of I’m Trying to Love Spiders and Brain vs. Screen

  • “For every parent who wants to make a tech change in their home but finds their hands too full to pick up the latest treatise on the subject, open this simple playbook. Inside, 100 (literally) good ideas await. Pick one. Prepare for a win.”

    —Erin Loechner, Author of The Opt-Out Family: How to Give Your Kids What Technology Can’t 

  • “Digital Wellness is as essential to overall mental health as is good sleep, good nutrition, and healthy relationships. We all have a relationship with technology, and Aniko’s compilation of easy tips will help change our relationship into a much healthier one in which we have more control. Her tips are backed up by proven research and statistics, and as a psychotherapist who works primarily with adolescents, teens, and their families, I believe this book is a must-read for anyone who has a cell phone, and especially for anyone who has kids who have smartphones. I urge you to implement just a few suggestions from this book, and then rate your energy level and clarity-of-mind after just one week. Here’s to your health!”

    —Christine Harrison, LMFT, Licensed Family Therapist

  • “The Tech Parenting Rulebook is a collection of the most important evidence-based tips that every parent needs to know. In a world that often shames and judges parents, this book is an extremely relatable and understanding connection to the realities that all of us face in the mental health crisis that technology has exacerbated. Aniko’s vulnerable delivery is a breath of fresh air for all parents to start taking control to create the difficult boundaries they need with the knowledge that is necessary to start fighting back against the seemingly uncontrollable force of technology.”

    —Ross Szabo, Youth Mental Health Advocate and Wellness Director at Geffen Academy at UCLA

  • “Modern parents are bombarded with voices at the intersection of family life and technology. They must sift through myriad forms of guidance as they strive to raise thriving children in the digital age. The Tech Parenting Rulebook clears the static. Drawing on her expertise as an advocate, reformer, and parent, Aniko Hill’s book offers accessible, research-informed wisdom that empowers rather than judges. Its illuminating and practical content will help readers continue their parenting journeys more thoughtfully and confidently. ”

    —Justin H. Dove, EdS, NCSP, LEP, Licensed Educational Psychologist

  • “As a mother of three school-aged children and an educator, I see firsthand how difficult it can be for families to establish boundaries once tech is already part of daily life. The Tech Parenting Rulebook gives parents a practical way to be proactive instead of reactive. Aniko gives families a shared language and common rules to live by together. Less hypocrisy, less reactive parenting, and far more intention.”

    —Ashley Shapiro, MA, BCET, Board Certified Educational Therapist 

  • “Aniko has hit the mark. The Tech Parenting Rulebook is a wise, much needed, concise and incredibly practical and useful “how to” book that reads and rings true. Both serious and funny, this is the book to take everywhere, for a quick answer to a pesky question about technology use or for the hardest, seemingly impossible challenges a parent faces setting limits on their kids and tech. I can hear Aniko reassuring you, the reader, about every scary new limit as she outlines the problem and the answer. Each chapter is a rule or a tip, many start with the words “Don’t,” or “No,” and you get ready to batten down the hatches. But, fear not. Aniko walks you through and you find hope. This book is a gem, a prize for all parents.”

    —Stephanie Brown, Ph.D, Licensed psychologist and author of Speed

  • “The Tech Parenting Rulebook is a clear, practical guide that gives parents simple, realistic strategies for building healthy digital habits at home. I recommend it to any caregiver looking for straightforward, modern advice for kids in a world shaped by digital media.”

    —Colleen Kraft, MD, MBA, FAAP, Professor of Pediatrics at Keck School of
    Medicine at the University of Southern California and Former President, American Academy of Pediatrics 

  • “Aniko lends parents actionable, research-based recommendations for how to approach tech in your family’s life at every age. I highly recommend this book to any caregiver who has been overwhelmed about how to manage the encroachment of technology in our lives.”

    —Deanie Eichenstein, Psy.D., Pediatric Psychologist

  • “Parenting in the digital age can feel overwhelming, but The Tech Parenting Rulebook makes it remarkably doable. With practical, actionable tips, this book helps parents raise digitally healthy kids while protecting the connection, curiosity and joy that childhood deserves. An essential guide for every modern parent.”

    —Smita Malhotra, MD, Pediatrician and Author of The Newborn Handbook

  • “If you only read one book on kids and screen time, make it this one. Practical, data-driven, and refreshingly straightforward — 100 tips you can implement at your own pace without getting lost in the weeds. This book helps you keep screens from getting in the way of what matters most: your relationship with your child, and their emotional well being.”

    —Amie Anger, LCSW, Founder of The Real Parent

  • “The Tech Parenting Rulebook is a clear, practical guide that gives parents simple, realistic strategies for building healthy digital habits at home. I recommend it to any caregiver looking for straightforward, modern advice for kids in a world shaped by digital media.”

    —Colleen Kraft, MD, MBA, FAAP, Professor of Pediatrics at Keck School of
    Medicine at the University of Southern California and Former President, American Academy of Pediatrics

  • “Parents need clear, realistic ways to help their kids build healthy habits in a world designed to keep them scrolling. The Tech Parenting Rulebook explains the science behind its guidance, giving parents the confidence to make choices that support their children’s physical and mental well-being.”

    —Titania Jordan, CMO of Bark Technologies and Author of Parental Control

The Author

SHORT BIO (ABOUT 60 WORDS)

Aniko Hill is a marketing executive turned digital wellness advocate and the author of The Tech Parenting Rulebook: 100 Simple Tips to Raise Digitally Healthy Kids. After over 20 years building brands and ad campaigns, she co-founded DopaMind, a nonprofit helping families and schools build healthier technology habits. She has recorded more than 70 interviews with experts and presented to thousands of parents and educators. She lives in Los Angeles with her husband and two kids.

LONG BIO (ABOUT 180 WORDS)

Aniko Hill is an executive marketing leader with more than 20 years of experience building, scaling, and leading companies and organizations across the for-profit and nonprofit worlds. In 2005, she founded The Kitchen Collaborative, an award-winning creative agency that has driven brand strategy, visual storytelling, and growth for companies ranging from independent brands to Fortune 500s. That career gave her a rare insider’s view of how modern technology and media are built, and exactly how they are designed to use human psychology to capture attention and drive sales.

In 2023, she co-founded DopaMind, a nonprofit dedicated to digital wellness and literacy for kids and families, where she oversees strategy, programming, and partnerships with schools and communities across the country. She has presented to thousands of parents and educators and recorded more than 70 interviews with leading experts in relevant fields, curating their knowledge into practical guidance caregivers can actually use.

She is the author of The Tech Parenting Rulebook: 100 Simple Tips to Raise Digitally Healthy Kids. She also writes a Substack on slow-tech parenting and hosts the DopaMind podcast.

Topics and Sample Questions


In harmony with tech

Small changes that cut daily tech fights and meltdowns, from phone-free bedrooms to a family tech agreement.

Retro decorum

Screen etiquette, reconnecting to other humans, and reclaiming shared spaces.

Reclaiming your attention

Why every phone pickup opens a door to the feed, and simple ways parents and teens can pick up the phone less.

Humanity over machines

Phone calls, face-to-face time, skills grads need, and connection in the age of AI.

Modeling healthy habits

Modeling the tech behavior you want to see, narrating your own phone use, and what kids learn from watching us.

Tech Karen confessions

Pushing back kindly (and with humor) against tech at school and with other parents.


  1. What made you leave social media marketing to co-found DopaMind?

  2. You jokingly call yourself “Tech Karen.” What does that mean, and what’s the story behind it?

  3. If a parent could change one thing tonight, what should it be?

  4. What do you mean when you say these products are built to be impossible to put down?

  5. Why do we pick up our phones for something legit and end up scrolling, and how can we fix that?

  6. Why do kids copy what we do with our tech, and what do we do about it?

  7. What do you say to a parent whose child already has a phone or social media and regrets it?

  8. What’s the right age for a first smartphone, and how do you hold the line?

  9. What if your partner or co-parent isn’t on the same page?

  10. Which of the 100 tips did you struggle with most in your own house?

  11. What’s your favorite tip for toddlers, tweens, and teens?

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